An Energized Move – Moving Out and Moving On

Moving House with Energy and Moving On with Anticipation

Moving House with Energy

Moving House with Energy

Recently I received the news that I would have to move out of my lovely home. Although I was expecting it for some time it was still a shock.

I have lived here for 3½ years and have treated it as my own.  Many friends and family have visited and stayed, I hosted a book launch, held workshops and a ‘Celebration Party’ here where 50 of us shared what we were celebrating. Many contributed to the entertainment so it was a celebration of the talents and abilities of those present also – singing, poetry, acting and more.

I love the house, and  I have beautiful memories to carry with me as I go through the process of moving.

Although Moving House is only # 32 in the Holmes and Rahe Stress Scale it can still be stressful.

First there is the de-energizing effect of facing up to the impending change.

Second is the challenge of having to find somewhere else just as nice to live.
Thank goodness for the internet and realestate.com.au which allowed me to ‘shop online’ first. I looked at several houses and nothing inspired me, then I checked out the area where I used to live and ‘Lo and Behold’ the ideal house turned up.

Apart from being the size and style I liked, the view and the garden there were several extra bonuses; in the complex are two swimming pools (one is heated) so I can keep fit by swimming all year round. Then there is the gym and tennis court. I might even take up playing again. How does it get better than this?

The Third Stress Factor: organizing all the changes, redirections, re-connections, and notifying friends and relations, etc etc.

A long long list to get through.

Fourth: Cleaning, lawn mowing etc at the house I am leaving to make sure I hand it over in pristine condition.

Fifth: Pacing myself physically, emotionally and mentally so that I maintain my energy throughout the time.

I am so lucky and energized that I have wonderful friends (and my brother) who are helping me in so many ways with this move.

It looks like there will have to be another party coming up – a House Warming one.

Castles in the Sky

Castles in the Sky

The name of the complex I am moving into is ‘Castles in the Sky’ – and that is what it feels like – Somewhere Over the Rainbow – where I will be living with my friend Sue. How does it get better than this.

So – Moving House and Moving On can be energizing.

This is where the ‘anticipation’ comes in. I am so looking forward to this new beginning, and even the challenges it throws up. We don’t grow unless we move through new challenges with ease and joy. So far it has been easy and joyful for me, and I anticipate it will open up new opportunities and adventures. I do hope some of you can share them with me.
I am trusting that it will energize me to be more regular and consistent with my blog posts too.

A Poem – Moving House and Moving On

Sometimes we require a shove or a push to get us to move right along
A move that is physical brings on a change that can be a dirge or a song.
By leaving this place where I’ve known fun and love I’m facing some challenges new,
But the house that I’ve found that will soon be my home is one with some height and a view.

I’ll be up ‘In the Sky’ in a ‘Castle’ it seems,  as the name says that’s where it’s located.
Good fortune with follow me there I am sure for the ‘Place’ is ‘Fortuna’ – so stated.
Facilities many, a garden around, where the birds can join in with my song.
I’ll move there with energy, share lots of love and invite all my friends – come along.

It’s symbolic I’m sure of the change in my life, where I’ve done it at times rather tough.
My belief is that life should be easy and smooth, of roughness I’ve had quite enough.
From now I resolve to put out what I want – and what I am wanting for me
Is the same as for you – to receive as you give, that beautiful life energy.

© Joan Small June 2012

Live with Energy
Joan
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New Energy from Hawaii – The Excitement of Anticipation

Anticipating a Holiday is Energizing

dolphin smiling Joan SmallOnly five more sleeps until we leave for Hawaii, and I am as excited as a child looking forward to Christmas. I am beginning to anticipate what might be, because of some synchronicities that have occurred this week.

I say ‘anticipate’ rather than ‘expect’ because expectations can lead to disappointment, and I want to be open to whatever is offered to me on this brand new holiday. Anticipation is energizing, because it is like ‘creating possibilities’ that may occur.

Another Joan – and a Surprise

On Wednesday I went to Yoga with my friend Bev – a fantastic Yoga teacher, and I always feel energized by it. Afterwards we have coffee and talk about all manner of things. This time it was about Hawaii, and she told me of Joan Ocean, ‘The dolphin lady of Hawaii’ who lives on the big island where we are spending most of our time, and how you can swim with the dolphins there. Bev said she would lend me Joan’s book to read.

When I came home, I looked up Joan Ocean on the Internet. What I discovered first, was not all about dolphins. It was instead about the Sasquatch – America’s Big Foot, and her encounters.

You could have knocked me down with a feather. I had just finished writing Maggie’s and my book about Australia’s ‘bigfoot’, the Gooligah, and here I was, reading what this other Joan has written about the Sasquatch!!

When I went to the main part of her website, which was about the dolphins, I found she is conducting two dolphin and whale seminars at the exact time we will be in Hawaii. Unfortunately I will not be able to attend, but the wonderful dolphin energy will be all around, and I will put it out there that I can swim with dolphins somehow.

I have written to Joan Ocean, and hope to receive a reply from her before I go.

The Book – The Day of the Gooligah

Gooligah

Gooligah

It’s been an exciting week. My friend Maggie Meyer, with whom I am collaberating to write this book, came to visit on Wednesday to have a celebratory meeting on finishing writing ‘The Day of the Gooligah’. She brought me gifts – beautiful coffee mugs and a plate with the Blue Wren and Fairy Wren on them. (I love pretty coffee mugs and plates). She didn’t know that the town where I was born – Bridgetown in Western Australia) has the Blue Wren as its bird emblem.
More Synchronicity!

Then yesterday, I received word that The Day of the Gooligah had been shortlisted in the competition we’d entered with Morris Publishing, and so is one of eleven books on the shortlist from which five will be selected to be published. Maggie and I are over the moon.

What an energizing week it has been, and I anticipate more to come.

Anticipation – What an Amazing and Energizing Word.  I invite you to use it, and bring ‘anticipation and imagination of good to come’ into your life to energize you.

Enter your comments below, and tell me what you are anticipating . If you can’t see the Comments link below, click on the title of this blog and it will take you to a page where you can scroll down and leave your reply.

Live with Energy

Joan

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Happy Toes and Energy to Dance

Toes for energyWhy Do Happy Toes Energize Me?

Nobody takes toes seriously!

I woke up this morning with happy toes! Some of you will know I went for a cropper last week, and at the time I thought my knees were the worst problem,  but when that pain subsided I realised it was my toes causing the most pain – the two smallest toes on my right foot.  

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You would think toes didn’t matter that much, especially the little ones, but it is surprising how pain and injury in these small bodily parts can be limiting.

This morning I awoke without toe pain – Happy Toes meant a happy and energized me.

Louise Hay, my wellness guru, says in ‘You Can Heal Your Life’ toes represent the minor details of the future. Her affirmation is ‘All details take care of themselves’.

Had I been worrying about the minor details of my Hawaii trip? Certainly, the past week has been one of re-scheduling because of the collapse of Air Australia, and we have only just received our new flight details,  so at last I can truly relax and get excited about the holiday. We are now travelling on Hawaiian Airlines, which means we are going ‘The Hawaiian Way’ – and the bonus is we get an extra night in Honolulu paid for by the travel agent.

So my toes can heal now – the details of the future are taken care of.  With happy toes I will be able to learn to dance the hula. What can be more energizing than that?

Band Aids and a Kiss

On a physical level I did very little to help heal my toes. I wrapped them in bandaids.

How comforting the good old bandaid is! It reminds me of my childhood, and also reminds me of when I lovingly applied bandaids to my children’s minor injuries. 

People talk about ‘the bandaid treatment’ but let’s not knock it. It works!  Just as the ‘kiss it better’ treatment works for small children. There is something magical about this. Is it because the child believes it will get better that the bandaid and the kiss  take away the pain?

What We Believe Becomes Real – The Energizing (or de-energizing) Power of Belief

Last night I watched a movie called ‘The Invention of Lying’, with Ricky Gervais, about a town where nobody lied about anything. Then the lead character, Mark Bellison, discovered he could lie.

Of course I am not advocating lying, but what this movie illustrates is the power of the mind and belief. When we are told something with enough autority we will believe it.

Doctors have a tremendous amount of authority and respect, and many people believe what they say. This can be a recovery or cure, but is more often a ‘sentence’ to lifelong dis-ease and dosing up on more and more drugs.

 How Does Belief Help Healing and Energy?

Most of us believe that the external body heals itself. We see new skin grow where grazes have turned to scabs: we even take it for granted that broken bones, once set in place, will knit together without medication.  Hence it was natural and normal for me to believe that my little toes would recover over time.

Time is a Great Healer

We often use the saying, ‘Time is a great healer’.  So how come many of us don’t believe that the internal organs will heal over time?

Don’t we know that the best thing we can do for the body is build up the immune system and then ‘get out of the body’s way’ so it can do what it is designed to do – heal itself. 

This means not focussing on the illness. Like Makia, in the Hawaiian Way says: ‘Energy flows where attention goes’, and ‘ focus on what you do want, not on what you don’t want.’ 

Natural and Normal

On Dr Oz this week he was talking about how to reduce bad cholesterol. He has some great blog posts on the subject of using natural means to change cholesterol levels.

Me, I don’t buy into all the attention to the numbers relating to cholesterol – to me it is focussing on what I don’t want. But I have to admit Dr Oz’s diagramatic explanation of how cholesterol is made and what its purpose is was very interesting. With the focus on cholesterol  we get the idea it is all bad, but in fact it is a natural, normal  and necessary building block for our cells.

Give it No Thought

Staying healthy is easy – just as ‘Life is meant to be easy’ – and energizing. All we have to do is follow some simple basic principles and then get out of our own way so that the automatic healing system that comes naturally to our bodies and minds can work. 

I’ve mentioned my friend Richard Grant before, with his book ‘Give it No Thought’. If you can give no thought to illness and focus on wellness – ease rather than dis-ease – you will find you are happier, healthier and more energized every day.

So this week I am looking forward to ‘all the details taking care of themselves’, having an energizing time as my toes get happier, and focussing on all the exciting energizing things coming up.

I hope you can do the same. 

Sickness Or Health
All around me every day
The world is sick. These people say
‘I’ve got the flu, my knees are sore,
My heart is weak. I’m feeling poor.

‘Unknown syndromes, doctors named them.
On the health scheme, pills, I’ve claimed them.
Two I’m taking when I rise,
Another two, the docs advise,
And ere I sleep there’s three or four.
I cannot guess how many more.

‘I wake up feeling good and bright,
Then take my pills. Oh what a fright.
I fall asleep, I’m feeling sick.
Is this the cure?  I need help quick’.

These medications make no sense.
Try good nutrition, good thoughts. Hence
The cure’s within me, body, mind.
True ‘wellness’ every day I’ll find.

© Joan Small

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Live with Energy

Joan

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Are You Paying it Forward? A Wonderful Energizer

 Pay it Forward to Energize – Hawaii

hawaii
Hawaii

When I arrived home yesterday I found my lovely friend Franki mowing my lawn. She has offered to do it for me to save me money until I go to Hawaii, as I had been paying to have my garden maintained.  I don’t have a lawn mower, and she is very good at it, and quick too. What an amazing gift.

Franki has been reading the book ‘Pay it Forward’. I saw the movie and found it so inspirational that I wrote about it in my books.  Even the movie trailer is inspirational and energizing  Watch it Here 

Pay it Forward is something I like to live by, but every now and then I have to be reminded of how it works.

To Hawaii – or Not?

One reminder recently was to do with the Hawaiian trip I am going on in March. I say ‘going on’ very positively because it has been challenging. You see we were caught up in the Air Australia demise, where the Airline suddenly announced on Friday morning that it was no longer flying anyone anywhere.

Air AustraliaOur group was booked on Air Australia. Suddenly we were without a means to get to Hawaii.

The barbecue that was planned for yesterday to get to know each other and handover travel wallets etc, turned into a strategy planning meeting. However, we still managed to enjoy the ambience of the lovely tropical garden and the beautiful Gold Coast weather. Our energy picked up and we separated on a positive note.

A lot of activity took place over a couple of days, and the trip is still going ahead.

‘Pay it Forward’ clicked in.

Qantas airlines offered a low airfare to Air Australia passengers. I was one of the ‘lucky’ ones, with a long term good friend, also going on the trip, offering to pay the extra money needed to obtain this new airfare. What a generous gesture! I will do my best to pay her back in time, one way or another – but perhaps I am meant to ‘Pay it Forward’ too.

I could easily have refused her offer, and Franki’s lawn mowing, but I chose instead to be grateful and accepting.  They both enjoy sharing and giving to others, and I believe in the power and energy of ‘receiving’ as much as the energy of ‘giving’.

I also believe that I have ‘paid it forward’ by giving freely of my time and energy to help others – most recently in helping Dean Callaway get his book ‘The Hawaiian Way’ into print with extras to help him promote it, because I support his message. Dean is also paying it forward with the time and energy he has put in to making the trip the best he can and the extra things he does for people all the time.

Balance – Exchange of Energy

The world is built on balance, and the balance of ‘exchange of energy’ is an important concept. This doesn’t mean we have to exchange it with the same people. It simply means we put out in big doses and it comes back in big doses – if we are able to receive it.

People who receive too much and never give are out of balance, but so also are people who give too much and cannot receive. 

Is Your Energy Balanced? Check your ‘ometers’

Check your receive-ometer against your give-ometer, and see if you are allowing yourself to receive.

An Energy Block – What Did it Mean?

With Dean’s Hawaiian trip, we had a good feeling about how everything would go smoothly and it would be an amazing experience for all ten of us, and then suddenly there was a ‘spanner in the works’ with the Air Australia collapse. This got us thinking?  What’s going on here?  Why this sudden block in our path?

In a former job I had, one person said to me, ‘We never promised you a bed of roses’. Well, I guess we could say this about life. Even though I believe ‘Life was meant to be easy’, I also know we are going to be tested from time to time – tested on our focus, determination, and maybe on the ‘7 Principles of the Hawaiian Way’ also – Ike -Awareness, Kala -No Limits , Makia – Focus, Manawa – Living in the Now, Aloha -Love, Mana – All power comes from within, and Pono – Effectiveness is the measure of truth.

Perhaps this was what was happening – it was just a test to see which of us was applying all the principles and who could move through the blockage and make it go right.

Everything is coming right, and I will give you an update when I find out how many are still going on the trip.

GIVING AND RECEIVING
They say it’s more blessed to give than receive.
But that’s how they see it, how they perceive.
For giving is one thing that’s easy to do.
It makes me feel good when I’m giving to you.

But better than this is receiving a gift.
By thanking the giver, I give you a lift.
When gratitude shows for the thing you have done,
You’re rewarded because you’re  the most special one.

By giving I show that I selflessly live. When receiving I bless you,
Not just when I give.

(c) Joan Small

Let me have your comments, and tell me about any incidents you have had of ‘Paying it Forward’. 

Live with Energy

Joan

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New Energy in February – The Tummy Tuck System

The Tummy Tuck System – Energize Your Body Naturally

In my last post (yesterday) I talked about the ‘Interim’ – the period over the holidays, and how it has enabled me to re-focus and get started back into life with New Energy. But relaxing for this amount of time had a downside.

Letting the Body Go

The biggest shock for me was to discover the way I had let my body go. However my latest activity, my Yoga Class, has led me to an energizing breakthrough, and I am excited to share it with you.

The Breakthrough – Yoga and Lightbulb Moments

My friend Bev conducts the Yoga Class and she is an excellent teacher. Afterwards we have coffee and a chat, and last week I mentioned to her how disgusted I was to see a photo which showed my very fat tummy. Her casual response was, ‘You know, a flat stomach is the natural state for the body’.

This was Lightbulb Moment #1

It hit me like a ton of bricks. ‘What a great affirmation’, I thought. A flat stomach is the natural state for the body.

What I had been doing was looking at myself in the mirror and and in photographs and telling myself how much I didn’t like my fat tummy. I was doing this despite the fact that I know about ‘what you focus on you create’,  and my thoughtw were simply exacerbating the problem. 

It was time to change my focus.

Lightbulb Moment #2 occurred when I thought about what I had been doing. For about 2 years I have been focussing on breathing into my stomach to fill my lungs with air, and then pushing the air out by pulling my stomach in. This has helped me to relax and be more calm, and it has kept my body healthy. However, I have been focussed on the wrong part of the cycle – the in breath.

My realisation was that I must focus on the out breath – tighten those tummy muscles and push all the CO2 out. Only when all the air has been pushed out can I then take a deep breath in (letting the stomach out) to fill up my lungs with fresh new air and oxygen. The outbreath is much longer than the inbreath. This means that the tummy muscles are being contracted for much longer than they are being relaxed.

Lightbulb Moment #3 was the understanding that toxins are being released from the body with the outbreath, and this also aids health and helps to decrease the swelling in the belly. (My  Meditation guru – Chris Dorje Walker – and Bev were both saying the same thing.)

Joan Small Tummy Tuck

Left: Before - 12th Jan 2012 Right: Feb 4th 2012 After 10 days of tummy tuck breathing

The Result:

Look at the photos at right to see the result in just one week of practising this new breathing technique –  tightening my stomach muscles with the outbreath. I am amazed. My clothes are looser around the waist and stomach area, and I am standing and sitting taller and straighter.

Why don’t you try it too?

I told one of my friends about this, and she said, ‘I wonder what I have been telling my body?  She picked up on the affirmation part of it and is changing her thoughts.

I am looking for people to give it a try, because I am keen to see if it will work for others as well as it works for me.

It is not easy to do, because it is essential that you maintain a relaxed state in your shoulders and arms (so that the body is not getting the message to send adrenalin through the systems), and all you are contracting is your stomach. It takes practice, but is worth the effort.

This is what you do:

  1. Say the affirmation A flat stomach is the natural state for the body as often as you remember. I have also added The body’s natural state is at ease, healthy and toned.
  2. Drop your shoulders down and relax your shoulders and arms
  3. Contract your stomach muscles as you breathe out, pushing all the air out of your lungs until you feel there is none left (eliminate what the body doesn’t need to create a vacuum)
  4. Then allow your stomach to relax and the incoming breath to fill up your stomach and lungs. This should take less time than the outward breath and should feel wonderful – all that beautiful fresh air expanding your lungs.
  5. As you again push the air out by contracting your stomach, imagine the toxins leaving your system.
  6. Get into the habit of breathing this way all the time – practice while driving the car, sitting in front of TV, at your computer etc.

You will find that you are energizing your body by allowing the waste to be expelled and the life-giving breath to fill your lungs.

You automatically sit and stand straighter and taller.

If you are like me, you will find that your cravings for food are reduced. You are receiving the energy from the oxygenated air, and by contracting your stomach you are giving it the signal that it doesn’t need that ‘full feeling’.

 I would love to hear about your experience with the  Natural Tummy Tuck system.

To see a video with Narelle Stratford on how to do the breathing Click Here

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Live with Energy
Joan
Visit:  http://www.confidenceiskey.com/ to find out about my book, ‘Confidence Is Key’  or http://www.theenergybook.com

Energy from the Interim

Use the Interim to Energize

Do you have the same thing I do – difficulty in getting back into the swing of things after the holiday period? I am ashamed to realise that this is the last day of January, and I haven’t written a post since New Year. 

I tell a lie – I don’t do shame!  But it amazes me that it has taken this long to get writing to you again and I have had to push through blockages to get here. 

It’s not that I haven’t done anything at all – I have just done ‘everything else’ but write my posts, and contact all my wonderful friends that have taken the trouble to join my list. (If you haven’t already – do put your name and email at the right ——-> to join. As you will realise, I won’t bombard you with a lot of extra emails.)

Joan Small family

Me with my son and his three beautiful daughters

What have I been doing in the ‘Interim’?  

I love that word ‘interim’ – a good sounding word that means exactly what I want it to:  an intervening time, an interval.  So, I have just been having an ‘interval’ like the lull in the middle of a grand performance. In the interval the actors prepare for the next Act. The audience refreshes themselves with food and drink, and many visit the bathroom – eliminating waste is important too. Perhaps this is what the Interim is all about.

During that intervening time for me, I actually achieved quite a lot. I did the relaxing and refreshing, and also eliminated a lot of clutter from my garage, my office and my mind. I prepared myself of the next Act of my life.

Here’s My Interim List (being a Virgo I love lists!):

  • Caught up with family when they visited the Gold Coast – An energizing time in the rainforest and at the beach
  • Re-focussed and wrote more of my Young Adults fantasy fiction adventure novel, and entering a competition with it – broke through some more blockages and gained the energy to do it.
  • Compiled ‘A Kaleidoscope of Aussie Poetry’ Ebook for my Poetry in Paradise group. Creating a product is always energizing.  Download it free Here 
  • Started Yoga Class – a new activity. More about that in my next post. A great body cleanse.
  • Mulled over my next book about feeling young while growing older  – can’t wait to start writing it. Watch this space – lots of amazing things I’ve learned about feeling young.

Not too bad an ‘Interim List’ perhaps. Certainly energizing to look at it and discover what I have been doing while avoiding what I thought I should be doing. (See my poem about Procrastination below.)

What is your ‘Interim List’?  What have you been doing while you have been avoiding doing what you think you should be doing?

There’s not many things I hate, but I hate that horrible ‘should’ word. Why?  Because ‘should’ implies that someone outside of ourselves is telling us to do it. It’s usually an authority figure, and often in the past – a parent, teacher, well-meaning friend, doctor, etc etc. If someone in the present is telling you what you should be doing, consider letting that person go out of your life.

How many de-energizing  ‘shoulds’ do you have? 

  • I should do more exercise
  • I should take more pills
  • I should work harder / longer
  • I should mow the lawn, mop the floors, visit my in-laws

The list is endless.

Just ask yourself, ‘Why Should I? Who says?’  You may find you can reclaim a whole lot of fun time, me time, leisure and pampering time, simply by just letting go of the shoulds.

Don’t forget the most important part that really recharges your energy cells – that is Let Go of the Guilt.

When you let go of any shame or guilt from not doing what you should be doing, you can really live in the Now. That is the very best energizer of all.

Reclaim your energy – enjoy the Interim, send those shoulds and guilts packing and live to enjoy the moment.

I am.  And look what’s happened. I have written a new post.

Procrastination
I’m fighting still procrastination.
Or is it just prevarication.
To put things off, show hesitation
Leads to loss of motivation.
Even worse, to much frustration,
Production loss, deterioration.
Conversely there’s the implication,
Do it now brings great elation,
Makes things work, facilitation.
Others show appreciation.
Stand and gaze in admiration.
Here is one who leads the nation,
Simply by fast application,
Action now, true dedication.

c) Joan Small 2003

I would love to hear about your ‘Interim List’.
Leave a reply below, or if you cannot see where to comment, click on the title of the post and it will take you through to a page where you can scroll down to the bottom and write your views. I would love to hear your thoughts.

Live with Energy
Joan
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A New Year – New Energy – New Resolves

Energize Yourself Anew in 2012

New Year's Eve Fireworks, Sydney

New Year's Eve Fireworks, Sydney

2012 started off with a bang with fireworks shooting to the sky everywhere. What a symbol of energy that is, although it’s not exactly ‘clean’ energy.

It’s ironic that so much is said about polluting the atmosphere and yet millions of dollars goes up in smoke to herald each New Year – but I won’t go there!!

As the 7th Principle in ‘The Hawaiian Way’ says, ‘There is always a better way of doing things’, and my better way of looking at the fireworks is to marvel at their beauty.

New Year’s Eve Party

New Years Eve Fireworks Sydney - Joan SmallOn New Years Eve I partied with friends at their unit in Southport where, from the roof of the building, we could see fireworks from Paradise Point to Broadbeach, not to mention the beautiful lights of the Gold Coast. The images from my camera were disappointing though, so when I came home I watched the recording of the Sydney fireworks display and took these photos of the television.

Watch this Beautiful Video Here
The images, music and message are superb, and will certainly energize and uplift you.

A Christmas Party to Energize

At Christmas and New Year there is so much to celebrate, and this in itself is energizing. I was fortunate in celebrating with my son and his beautiful family in Darwin. My daughter-in-law and her Chinese relations have a big family gathering in a hall.

A Cyclone that didn’t happen in Darwin

Power WingsCyclone Grant was hovering off the north coast of Australia, and the weather bureau was issuing warnings, but I was confident it was not going to spoil our Christmas, and it didn’t. In fact the weather was so dry that my grandsons and their friends were able to try out their new power wings outside.

What a wonderful loving environment it was, and they were very accepting of me, despite my very Aussie/European background. Most of them have been in Darwin for several generations, so we had traditional Christmas dinner, and I felt quite at home. There was not one disagreement or cross word, and no children cried. The energy, friendship and cameraderie was amazing.

Mahjong
Mahjong

The party started at midday and ended late at night, and during the afternoon while the children played computer games some of the adults played Mahjong. 

‘Resolve’ for the New Year

I came home energized and enthused to start the New Year with some resolutions, or what I prefer to call ‘Resolves’.

‘Resolve’ is not a should, or must-do word. It puts the power and decision back to where it belongs, to ‘me, myself and I’.

Resolve, used as a verb, means ‘To make up ones mind, determine, decide.’ Another meaning is ‘to clear up, dispel, or to answer, solve, explain.’  The word is derived from the Latin ‘re’, meaning ‘back’, and ‘solvere’, to ‘loosen’. It has all the elements in it that I am putting forward – loosening up, letting go, having a clear purpose, listening to the inner voice, and determining or deciding what you wish to do, then going ahead and doing it when the time is right.

Resolve - Joan Small
Cartoon by Robin Small

There is no right and wrong with the word ‘resolve’ because it means that you decide. What I know is that if you resolve to do something it means an intention. ‘Intention is cause’  if put out into the Universe with enough resolve.
 
Commitment – A Promise to Yourself

The word resolve contains within it an element of commitment. Once you have made up your mind, or ‘resolved’ to do something, you have committed to it. As a noun it means ‘firmness in carrying out a purpose, determination.’

Jim Rohn once asked some children for a definition of the word resolve. His favourite one was, ‘A promise to myself that I will never give up.’

I offer the word ‘resolve’ as a gift to you and invite you to use it as often as you wish, especially as we go into the New Year.

What promise will you make to yourself that you will never give up on?

I have already started on my promises to myself. Tomorrow I will submit ‘The Hawaiian Way – Live the Principles’ by Dean Callaway for printing. I am proud of the fact that I have captured Dean’s words and workshops into print, and this will be an amazing book to change lives.

Dean’s book will be available at the Broadbeach , Gold Coast Qld Health, Harmony & Soul Expo from 20th January 2012. Put it in your diaries now if you live in SE Queensland.  

I also have two new books I am writing for myself, so watch this space.

New Year’s Resolve

 A New Year’s beginning to make resolutions.
For all of your problems come up with solutions.
But do you resolve to really take action?
Get focussed on change, put away all distractions?
The simple solution is always the best.
So give it a go, and put it to test.
(c) Joan Small

 I would love to hear about your ‘promises to yourself’ – your ‘Resolves’ for 2012.

Leave a reply below, or if you cannot see where to comment, click on the title of the post and it will take you through to a page where you can scroll down to the bottom and write your views. I would love to hear your thoughts.

Live with Energy
Joan
Visit:  http://www.confidenceiskey.com/ to find out about my latest book, ‘Confidence Is Key’  or http://www.theenergybook.com

Changing The Energy at Christmas – Reality Music and Dance Shows

Music and Dance Show Judges,  Validation and Energy

Have you noticed that on the music and dance reality shows the judges have changed their attitude? Is it my imagination, or are they more about validation these days than ‘invalidation’, which means to weaken, impair; disprove, refute, rebut – cause to be worthless, not good?

Invalidatory judges

There used to always be the ‘Hanging Judge’ – the nasty one who specialised in invalidation, gave out the put downs and cutting comments that ripped the performers to shreds. Red Simons on the Australian show ‘Hey Hey It’s Saturday’ was a classic, and the tradition was carried on in Australia by Ian Dickenson – known as ‘Dicko’, and Kyle Sanderlands.  But these ‘invalidator’ judges seem to have become kinder. Even Kyle watered down his harsh comments in the latest round of X Factor.

Susan BoyleThe Magic of Susan Boyle

Simon Cowell on Britain’s Got Talent, known as a critical cynical judge, appears to have become softer.  Was it Susan Boyle who worked this magic? and changed a cynical man into a believer. Watch Susan Boyle’s original version of  ‘I Dreamed a Dream’ on youtube as more than 6M people have done.

See the transformation in Simon’s face as Susan Boyle opens her mouth and sings.

How many times in your life have you been made to feel worthless or of no account? 

How many times have you been disapproved of, or disproved, refuted or rebutted and so weakened.

Choose Validation to Empower and Energize

If you choose ‘validation’ you will see that it will strengthen by approving. This is what I see happening now  in shows such as ‘So You Think You Can Dance’

Lady Gaga

Watch Lady Gaga below. You may find her costume and her tears a bit over the top, but just look at how her response to Melanie’s dancing makes the young dancer’s face shine. Even Mary Murphy with her outrageous screaming makes the dancers glow, and Nigel has become less critical, relying more on sandwiching points for improvement (rather than put-downs) between his compliments.

It seems the world of reality performance shows is changing, and because of the increase in the best kind of validation the stars are becoming more energized and performing amazing artistic feats that take the breath away.

Validation is truly empowering.  
Susan Energizes the World With her Love and Spirit

Susan Boyle has taken the world by storm, and brought it together in a loving way more than any person since Princess Diana.

Susan refused to be put down and invalidated. Instead she let her light and her energy shine.

We can all do the same this Christmas and into 2012. Let go of the invalidation, don’t take it on board, but rather validate and honour others for the person they are inside.

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Live with Energy
Joan
Visit:  http://www.confidenceiskey.com/ to find out about my latest book, ‘Confidence Is Key’  or http://www.theenergybook.com/

Celebrating is Energizing – Celebrate Every Day

Celebration Party – An Energizing Experience

Part of the Group, enthralled by the entertainment

Part of the Group, enthralled by the entertainment

I could not have hoped for a more uplifting and energizing experience than my Celebration Party on Sunday, and judging by the comments I received from the more than 50 guests, verbally and in my Visitor Book, a lot of people felt the same way.

Some of the comments were:

What a beautiful gathering of lovely people and a fantastic celebration of life… A wonderful afternoon of satsana with so many embodiments of love – thank you all … Rich and delightful gathering of artists at Christmas … Joan, what an awesome afternoon of celebration and talent. You have an amazing group of friends. … Such a blessing to have you as a friend and to be a part of today in sharing ‘Celebrations’ together. …Honoured to be invited to your wonderful Celebration Day Gathering … Thanks so much for welcoming me into your life, your friendship and home – uplifting and soul nurturing … Beautiful lady, beautiful home.

Can I take all the credit for the energy in the room? 

Of course not. Sure I facilitated it, sent out the invitations, provided the venue, organised the seating, snacks and fruit punch etc, but the people who came and contributed were the success factor.

In my book, ‘Negativity No More’ and also in ‘Confidence is Key’ I talk about the importance of choosing your friends. Sunday’s party showed that I have done a stella job of choosing beautiful people to surround myself with.

Despite the fact that the guests came from many different areas of my life and ranged in age from the 30s to the 80s and 90s, they mixed and mingled, made new connections, and no-one was allowed to be on their own. We formed a wonderful ‘fan club’ for each other.

The Entertainment was Amazing

Deborah Leigh-Russell

Deborah Leigh-Russell

The party turned into a ‘Soiree’ – an afternoon of friends, music, poetry and performances as guests volunteered to share their talents. 

The featured singer, Deborah Leigh-Russell, was as always amazing, with her angelic voice filling the room and engulfing everyone with its magic as she sang ‘You’ll Never Walk Alone’, ‘Climb Every Mountain’, ‘Unforgettable’ and more. Deborah has produced her new (re-mastered) CD – SOUL – Symphony Of Universal Love.

Audrey Todd is also a singer – of folk songs – and she livened up the group with a couple of favourites, encouraging us to join in.

Audrey Todd

Audrey Todd

Then there were the poets from Poetry in Paradise and some readings. The variety was amazing, and the audience  was loudly appreciative.

Sharing the Celebrations

Everybody shared what they had to celebrate – from just being alive to new books, new relationships, new challenges and new beginnings of several kinds.

To top it all off, I had helpers – people who quietly dispensed with rubbish, washed dishes and helped clean up.

Narelle Stratford, Joan Small and Dean Callaway

Narelle, Me and Dean

There were a few things I could have done better, but I will not dwell on these, because the over-all purpose of the afternoon was to celebrate life with my friends, and this was accomplished in an energizing way. What more could I ask for?

I can only say thankyou again to all those who made the choice to spend the afternoon with me and my friends. I’m sure our energy will continue to flow out into the world.

Leonie, Rob and Josie

Leonie, Rob and Josie

My suggestion to you is to approach each day with the question in mind , ‘What can I celebrate today?’ and then make sure you do celebrate in a small or large way. By sharing your celebration with others you will spread this wonderful celebration energy, and also help to change the way others see each moment.

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Live with Energy
Joan
Visit:  http://www.confidenceiskey.com/ to find out about my latest book, ‘Confidence Is Key’  or http://www.theenergybook.com

Energize Your Life with Variety – Poetry Campfire

 Variety Is The Spice Of Life – and A Great Energizer

Sometimes life can become a little mundane and ordinary – like ‘Groundhog Day’. Then it is time to look around and do something different.

campfire to energize

A Campfire with Poetry To Energize

As a girl from the outback I’ve always loved campfires. My most memorable was out on the flat Barkly Tableland on the cattle station my friends owned – with brilliant stars above, Johnny Cakes cooked on the hot coals and fireworks to let off. The cows came in close to see what was going on, and their eyes shone in the darkness. Last Friday night was a similar event. 

Robbie and Alan - married 50 dears

Robbie and Alan - married 50 years

Organised by Dave ‘The Banjo’ Farrer (author of ‘An Australian Story or Two’ books one and two), the members of our fabulous ‘Poetry in Paradise’ club and some others sat around on logs or chairs, and took turns to recite or read poetry. There was a lot of fun and laughter – we have some classic poets in the club, and of course laughter is a great energizer too.

Roger the Dodger even had a trophy – a mini one, with a pixie standing on a piece of granite.

Roger and Ted Skuse

Roger presents Ted with the trophy for best poetry presentation

He had his own criteria for the judging, and presented the pixie to someone who recited his own poetry – a newbie to the group, Ted Skuse.

It turned out Ted and I had something in common – not just the fact that we both like writing and presenting poetry, but that we lived in Australia’s Northern Territory at the same time. He was in Alice Springs and I was 500 kms north in Tennant Creek.

But back to the energy. What an energized mob it was – sitting around that campfire and sharing our special craft. Bob Dever,  the ‘Mudgeeraba Budgerigar’ even gave us his rendition of the didgeridoo.

Alan and Robbie were celebrating their 50 years of marriage too – and they still look happy.

To top it off, we had fresh hot damper with Cockey’s Joy (Golden Syrup – a bushie’s custom) and home made rock cakes baked by Dawn. The evening was balmy. I couln’t stop grinning – it took ten years off me I’m sure. ‘In my element’ describes the way I felt.

We stayed well past Dave’s bedtime. No-one wanted to go home.

Bob Dever plays the didgeridoo

Bob Dever plays the didgeridoo

So next time you are feeling a little low, bored or out of sorts, get out and do something different. You will find it an energizing experience.

If you fancy yourself as a poet, or would like to come and be part of the poetry ‘fan club’ we meet on the Gold Coast (at Southport). To find out more go to: http://tiny.cc/6xspr

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Live with Energy
Joan
Visit:  http://www.confidenceiskey.com/ to find out about my latest book, ‘Confidence Is Key’  or http://www.theenergybook.com