Are You Energized Before Christmas?

What is Your Energy Leading Up To Christmas? 

Santa sleeping

Resting up Before Christmas

Is it Neutral, Partying, Harrassed, Depressed, Remembering?

This time of year can mean many different things.

For children it is usually an uncomplicated time. They just know they are excited; anticipating the happiness that will come on Christmas morning when they receive gifts and have delicious sweets and other foods to eat. One of my sons would begin to get the Christmas feeling when he saw the stone fruit in the shops. Living in the ‘bush’ we couldn’t visit Santa,  or have Christmas Carols playing everywhere we went.

What are your feelings around Christmas?

Because my grown up children and grandchildren now live far away from me, I don’t always get to spend Christmas with them, so it can be a sad time if I allow it to be. However, I have learned to handle these feelings and create a happy energized Christmas for myself. This year it is easy, as I am spending it with my youngest son and my three gorgeous grandsons in Darwin, so I too am excited.

Neutral Energy

At the same time I am coasting along in Neutral. This position can feel a bit like depression – boredom, as normal activities start to wind down leading up to that much advertised and hyped up ‘once-a-year’ day. All the focus seems to be upon Christmas Day, so normal pursuits are winding down.

At the same time, parties are winding up.

Party Energy

Santa Party

Santa Party

So your energy may be Party Mode energy. This can be great, but then there may also be the anti-climax – after the party is over and you’re back home, perhaps even with a headache as a result.

Harrassed Energy

You may be feeling the pinch financially, wondering how you are going to buy all those presents and the food and drinks you need to ‘celebrate properly’, and prove to others that you really love them. You may be running out of time.

Remembering Energy

Remembering past Christmases can be good or bad. You may go back in your mind to happy Christmases, and this can be energizing and give you a glow inside, or it may make you feel sad that this Christmas perhaps won’t measure up. You may have lost someone close to you that made your Christmases of the past happy ones.

There is sometimes so much to think about around Christmas that we may feel like bypassing it altogether. I saw a movie once about a family that decided not to celebrate Christmas, but of course in the end they joined in the fun.

Fun Energy

The energy of fun and enjoyment is perhaps the best way to approach Christmas, but the most important thing is to have no expectations. If we just go with the flow and accept what is,  then we won’t be disappointed., and every small pleasure will help to ‘make our day’.

Live in the Now

Joan Small and Geesje Brown


Enjoy the moment, celebrate, and be grateful for the small joys as they come up. Don’t judge the gifts, just be grateful that someone took the time to think of you and give you something.

A couple of years in a row I worked with Tony Robbins’ team to deliver hampers to needy people, and I reveled in the happiness they showed in their faces when they received the hampers packed with food and luxuries. One lady said, ‘Do you mean I have a friend who cares enough about me to give me such a gift?’ She had been unwell, and had locked herself away, but now her face was beaming. This was a gift to me, as well as to her. I felt wonderful having brightened her day.

We hear so much about the Spirit of Giving, but there is also the Spirit of Receiving.

The Spirit of Receiving

When we receive what we have been given with happiness in our heart and reflect it in our faces with big smiles and genuine pleasure, the giver gets the glow also.

I wrote this little poem some years ago, and it is my gift to you this Christmas.

Giving and Receiving

They say it’s more blessed to give than receive.
But that’s how they see it, how they perceive.
For giving is one thing that’s easy to do.
It makes me feel good when I’m giving to you.

But better than this is receiving a gift.
By thanking the giver, I give you a lift.
When gratitude shows
For the thing you have done,
You’re rewarded because you’re
The most special one.

 By giving I show that I selflessly live.
When receiving I bless you,
Not just when I give.

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Celebrating is Energizing – Celebrate Every Day

Celebration Party – An Energizing Experience

Part of the Group, enthralled by the entertainment

Part of the Group, enthralled by the entertainment

I could not have hoped for a more uplifting and energizing experience than my Celebration Party on Sunday, and judging by the comments I received from the more than 50 guests, verbally and in my Visitor Book, a lot of people felt the same way.

Some of the comments were:

What a beautiful gathering of lovely people and a fantastic celebration of life… A wonderful afternoon of satsana with so many embodiments of love – thank you all … Rich and delightful gathering of artists at Christmas … Joan, what an awesome afternoon of celebration and talent. You have an amazing group of friends. … Such a blessing to have you as a friend and to be a part of today in sharing ‘Celebrations’ together. …Honoured to be invited to your wonderful Celebration Day Gathering … Thanks so much for welcoming me into your life, your friendship and home – uplifting and soul nurturing … Beautiful lady, beautiful home.

Can I take all the credit for the energy in the room? 

Of course not. Sure I facilitated it, sent out the invitations, provided the venue, organised the seating, snacks and fruit punch etc, but the people who came and contributed were the success factor.

In my book, ‘Negativity No More’ and also in ‘Confidence is Key’ I talk about the importance of choosing your friends. Sunday’s party showed that I have done a stella job of choosing beautiful people to surround myself with.

Despite the fact that the guests came from many different areas of my life and ranged in age from the 30s to the 80s and 90s, they mixed and mingled, made new connections, and no-one was allowed to be on their own. We formed a wonderful ‘fan club’ for each other.

The Entertainment was Amazing

Deborah Leigh-Russell

Deborah Leigh-Russell

The party turned into a ‘Soiree’ – an afternoon of friends, music, poetry and performances as guests volunteered to share their talents. 

The featured singer, Deborah Leigh-Russell, was as always amazing, with her angelic voice filling the room and engulfing everyone with its magic as she sang ‘You’ll Never Walk Alone’, ‘Climb Every Mountain’, ‘Unforgettable’ and more. Deborah has produced her new (re-mastered) CD – SOUL – Symphony Of Universal Love.

Audrey Todd is also a singer – of folk songs – and she livened up the group with a couple of favourites, encouraging us to join in.

Audrey Todd

Audrey Todd

Then there were the poets from Poetry in Paradise and some readings. The variety was amazing, and the audience  was loudly appreciative.

Sharing the Celebrations

Everybody shared what they had to celebrate – from just being alive to new books, new relationships, new challenges and new beginnings of several kinds.

To top it all off, I had helpers – people who quietly dispensed with rubbish, washed dishes and helped clean up.

Narelle Stratford, Joan Small and Dean Callaway

Narelle, Me and Dean

There were a few things I could have done better, but I will not dwell on these, because the over-all purpose of the afternoon was to celebrate life with my friends, and this was accomplished in an energizing way. What more could I ask for?

I can only say thankyou again to all those who made the choice to spend the afternoon with me and my friends. I’m sure our energy will continue to flow out into the world.

Leonie, Rob and Josie

Leonie, Rob and Josie

My suggestion to you is to approach each day with the question in mind , ‘What can I celebrate today?’ and then make sure you do celebrate in a small or large way. By sharing your celebration with others you will spread this wonderful celebration energy, and also help to change the way others see each moment.

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