Changing The Energy at Christmas – Reality Music and Dance Shows

Music and Dance Show Judges,  Validation and Energy

Have you noticed that on the music and dance reality shows the judges have changed their attitude? Is it my imagination, or are they more about validation these days than ‘invalidation’, which means to weaken, impair; disprove, refute, rebut – cause to be worthless, not good?

Invalidatory judges

There used to always be the ‘Hanging Judge’ – the nasty one who specialised in invalidation, gave out the put downs and cutting comments that ripped the performers to shreds. Red Simons on the Australian show ‘Hey Hey It’s Saturday’ was a classic, and the tradition was carried on in Australia by Ian Dickenson – known as ‘Dicko’, and Kyle Sanderlands.  But these ‘invalidator’ judges seem to have become kinder. Even Kyle watered down his harsh comments in the latest round of X Factor.

Susan BoyleThe Magic of Susan Boyle

Simon Cowell on Britain’s Got Talent, known as a critical cynical judge, appears to have become softer.  Was it Susan Boyle who worked this magic? and changed a cynical man into a believer. Watch Susan Boyle’s original version of  ‘I Dreamed a Dream’ on youtube as more than 6M people have done.

See the transformation in Simon’s face as Susan Boyle opens her mouth and sings.

How many times in your life have you been made to feel worthless or of no account? 

How many times have you been disapproved of, or disproved, refuted or rebutted and so weakened.

Choose Validation to Empower and Energize

If you choose ‘validation’ you will see that it will strengthen by approving. This is what I see happening now  in shows such as ‘So You Think You Can Dance’

Lady Gaga

Watch Lady Gaga below. You may find her costume and her tears a bit over the top, but just look at how her response to Melanie’s dancing makes the young dancer’s face shine. Even Mary Murphy with her outrageous screaming makes the dancers glow, and Nigel has become less critical, relying more on sandwiching points for improvement (rather than put-downs) between his compliments.

It seems the world of reality performance shows is changing, and because of the increase in the best kind of validation the stars are becoming more energized and performing amazing artistic feats that take the breath away.

Validation is truly empowering.  
Susan Energizes the World With her Love and Spirit

Susan Boyle has taken the world by storm, and brought it together in a loving way more than any person since Princess Diana.

Susan refused to be put down and invalidated. Instead she let her light and her energy shine.

We can all do the same this Christmas and into 2012. Let go of the invalidation, don’t take it on board, but rather validate and honour others for the person they are inside.

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Validation to be Energized at Christmas

Have You Seen ‘Validation’ the video Yet?
Energize your life with Validation

6,127,609 people have watched this movie on Youtube. It says it all. Validation is what so many of us have missed out on, and what many people crave. (See the movie below)

Who have you validated lately?

To validate means: to give official sanction, confirmation, or approval to. The movie begins with using the word validation as in ‘official sanction’ but Hugh Newman twists it to the last meaning ‘to give approval to’.  He takes it even further, showing how validation can be more that just approval – it can be a sincere, genuine and authentic compliment that brings out the best in people.

I had my own personal experience of validation last year when I had my professional photos taken.  

Sure, I was dressed up and had the makeover makeup to make me look as attractive as possible, but without the smile and the inner glow the photos would have been just the same as snaps I could take with my own camera.

Jess was the magic ingredient. The whole time she was taking photos she was complimenting and validating me, just as the Hugh does in this video.


‘Show me that beautiful smile, Joan.  Let me see those lovely eyes. That’s the way, you look absolutely gorgeous.

When people compliment me on the photos, I often say, ‘After that photo shoot I felt like I had experienced an uplifting meditation and a full body massage. I floated out as if on air, and couldn’t wipe the smile off my face’.

Even the photo Jess took with my own small digital camera showed a ‘me’ that I had not seen in photos before. My happiness shone through.

This is what happens when people genuinely validate us. Jess’s compliments and validation made me feel beautiful, and the photos are clear proof of the value of validation. 

Christmas time is the perfect time to validate people.

Who do you have in your life that you can validate straight away.

You can even validate people you meet for the first time, just as Hugh Newman does.  

Watch ‘Validation’ and ‘catch’ the technique for validating others. Don’t forget also to genuinely smile and accept the compliment when someone validates you.

The Flip Side

On the Flip Side, getting angry or putting another person down has the opposite effect. Note how Hugh loses his smile when he gets knocked down and starved of validation.

Who have you put down or become irritated or angry with lately? 

If you find yourself doing this, think of the Validation movie, or go watch it again.

The movie is 16 minutes long, and well worth watching. 

See how many people you can validate this Christmas and during the holiday period.

The man who told me about this movie is Richard Grant, author of the book ‘Give It No Thought’.  Check it out – a most interesting read.

The photography company I used on the Gold Coast was Aleece Young – Brie Stevenson and Jessica McDonald

Do you have a Validation story?  I would love to hear of it. 

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More about Validation next time.

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