A New Year – New Energy – New Resolves

Energize Yourself Anew in 2012

New Year's Eve Fireworks, Sydney

New Year's Eve Fireworks, Sydney

2012 started off with a bang with fireworks shooting to the sky everywhere. What a symbol of energy that is, although it’s not exactly ‘clean’ energy.

It’s ironic that so much is said about polluting the atmosphere and yet millions of dollars goes up in smoke to herald each New Year – but I won’t go there!!

As the 7th Principle in ‘The Hawaiian Way’ says, ‘There is always a better way of doing things’, and my better way of looking at the fireworks is to marvel at their beauty.

New Year’s Eve Party

New Years Eve Fireworks Sydney - Joan SmallOn New Years Eve I partied with friends at their unit in Southport where, from the roof of the building, we could see fireworks from Paradise Point to Broadbeach, not to mention the beautiful lights of the Gold Coast. The images from my camera were disappointing though, so when I came home I watched the recording of the Sydney fireworks display and took these photos of the television.

Watch this Beautiful Video Here
The images, music and message are superb, and will certainly energize and uplift you.

A Christmas Party to Energize

At Christmas and New Year there is so much to celebrate, and this in itself is energizing. I was fortunate in celebrating with my son and his beautiful family in Darwin. My daughter-in-law and her Chinese relations have a big family gathering in a hall.

A Cyclone that didn’t happen in Darwin

Power WingsCyclone Grant was hovering off the north coast of Australia, and the weather bureau was issuing warnings, but I was confident it was not going to spoil our Christmas, and it didn’t. In fact the weather was so dry that my grandsons and their friends were able to try out their new power wings outside.

What a wonderful loving environment it was, and they were very accepting of me, despite my very Aussie/European background. Most of them have been in Darwin for several generations, so we had traditional Christmas dinner, and I felt quite at home. There was not one disagreement or cross word, and no children cried. The energy, friendship and cameraderie was amazing.

Mahjong
Mahjong

The party started at midday and ended late at night, and during the afternoon while the children played computer games some of the adults played Mahjong. 

‘Resolve’ for the New Year

I came home energized and enthused to start the New Year with some resolutions, or what I prefer to call ‘Resolves’.

‘Resolve’ is not a should, or must-do word. It puts the power and decision back to where it belongs, to ‘me, myself and I’.

Resolve, used as a verb, means ‘To make up ones mind, determine, decide.’ Another meaning is ‘to clear up, dispel, or to answer, solve, explain.’  The word is derived from the Latin ‘re’, meaning ‘back’, and ‘solvere’, to ‘loosen’. It has all the elements in it that I am putting forward – loosening up, letting go, having a clear purpose, listening to the inner voice, and determining or deciding what you wish to do, then going ahead and doing it when the time is right.

Resolve - Joan Small
Cartoon by Robin Small

There is no right and wrong with the word ‘resolve’ because it means that you decide. What I know is that if you resolve to do something it means an intention. ‘Intention is cause’  if put out into the Universe with enough resolve.
 
Commitment – A Promise to Yourself

The word resolve contains within it an element of commitment. Once you have made up your mind, or ‘resolved’ to do something, you have committed to it. As a noun it means ‘firmness in carrying out a purpose, determination.’

Jim Rohn once asked some children for a definition of the word resolve. His favourite one was, ‘A promise to myself that I will never give up.’

I offer the word ‘resolve’ as a gift to you and invite you to use it as often as you wish, especially as we go into the New Year.

What promise will you make to yourself that you will never give up on?

I have already started on my promises to myself. Tomorrow I will submit ‘The Hawaiian Way – Live the Principles’ by Dean Callaway for printing. I am proud of the fact that I have captured Dean’s words and workshops into print, and this will be an amazing book to change lives.

Dean’s book will be available at the Broadbeach , Gold Coast Qld Health, Harmony & Soul Expo from 20th January 2012. Put it in your diaries now if you live in SE Queensland.  

I also have two new books I am writing for myself, so watch this space.

New Year’s Resolve

 A New Year’s beginning to make resolutions.
For all of your problems come up with solutions.
But do you resolve to really take action?
Get focussed on change, put away all distractions?
The simple solution is always the best.
So give it a go, and put it to test.
(c) Joan Small

 I would love to hear about your ‘promises to yourself’ – your ‘Resolves’ for 2012.

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Live with Energy
Joan
Visit:  http://www.confidenceiskey.com/ to find out about my latest book, ‘Confidence Is Key’  or http://www.theenergybook.com

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Changing The Energy at Christmas – Reality Music and Dance Shows

Music and Dance Show Judges,  Validation and Energy

Have you noticed that on the music and dance reality shows the judges have changed their attitude? Is it my imagination, or are they more about validation these days than ‘invalidation’, which means to weaken, impair; disprove, refute, rebut – cause to be worthless, not good?

Invalidatory judges

There used to always be the ‘Hanging Judge’ – the nasty one who specialised in invalidation, gave out the put downs and cutting comments that ripped the performers to shreds. Red Simons on the Australian show ’Hey Hey It’s Saturday’ was a classic, and the tradition was carried on in Australia by Ian Dickenson – known as ‘Dicko’, and Kyle Sanderlands.  But these ‘invalidator’ judges seem to have become kinder. Even Kyle watered down his harsh comments in the latest round of X Factor.

Susan BoyleThe Magic of Susan Boyle

Simon Cowell on Britain’s Got Talent, known as a critical cynical judge, appears to have become softer.  Was it Susan Boyle who worked this magic? and changed a cynical man into a believer. Watch Susan Boyle’s original version of  ’I Dreamed a Dream’ on youtube as more than 6M people have done.

See the transformation in Simon’s face as Susan Boyle opens her mouth and sings.

How many times in your life have you been made to feel worthless or of no account? 

How many times have you been disapproved of, or disproved, refuted or rebutted and so weakened.

Choose Validation to Empower and Energize

If you choose ‘validation’ you will see that it will strengthen by approving. This is what I see happening now  in shows such as ‘So You Think You Can Dance’

Lady Gaga

Watch Lady Gaga below. You may find her costume and her tears a bit over the top, but just look at how her response to Melanie’s dancing makes the young dancer’s face shine. Even Mary Murphy with her outrageous screaming makes the dancers glow, and Nigel has become less critical, relying more on sandwiching points for improvement (rather than put-downs) between his compliments.

It seems the world of reality performance shows is changing, and because of the increase in the best kind of validation the stars are becoming more energized and performing amazing artistic feats that take the breath away.

Validation is truly empowering.  
Susan Energizes the World With her Love and Spirit

Susan Boyle has taken the world by storm, and brought it together in a loving way more than any person since Princess Diana.

Susan refused to be put down and invalidated. Instead she let her light and her energy shine.

We can all do the same this Christmas and into 2012. Let go of the invalidation, don’t take it on board, but rather validate and honour others for the person they are inside.

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Joan
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Validation to be Energized at Christmas

Have You Seen ‘Validation’ the video Yet?
Energize your life with Validation

6,127,609 people have watched this movie on Youtube. It says it all. Validation is what so many of us have missed out on, and what many people crave. (See the movie below)

Who have you validated lately?

To validate means: to give official sanction, confirmation, or approval to. The movie begins with using the word validation as in ‘official sanction’ but Hugh Newman twists it to the last meaning ‘to give approval to’.  He takes it even further, showing how validation can be more that just approval – it can be a sincere, genuine and authentic compliment that brings out the best in people.

I had my own personal experience of validation last year when I had my professional photos taken.  

Sure, I was dressed up and had the makeover makeup to make me look as attractive as possible, but without the smile and the inner glow the photos would have been just the same as snaps I could take with my own camera.

Jess was the magic ingredient. The whole time she was taking photos she was complimenting and validating me, just as the Hugh does in this video.

 

‘Show me that beautiful smile, Joan.  Let me see those lovely eyes. That’s the way, you look absolutely gorgeous.

When people compliment me on the photos, I often say, ‘After that photo shoot I felt like I had experienced an uplifting meditation and a full body massage. I floated out as if on air, and couldn’t wipe the smile off my face’.

Even the photo Jess took with my own small digital camera showed a ‘me’ that I had not seen in photos before. My happiness shone through.

This is what happens when people genuinely validate us. Jess’s compliments and validation made me feel beautiful, and the photos are clear proof of the value of validation. 

Christmas time is the perfect time to validate people.

Who do you have in your life that you can validate straight away.

You can even validate people you meet for the first time, just as Hugh Newman does.  

Watch ’Validation’ and ‘catch’ the technique for validating others. Don’t forget also to genuinely smile and accept the compliment when someone validates you.

The Flip Side

On the Flip Side, getting angry or putting another person down has the opposite effect. Note how Hugh loses his smile when he gets knocked down and starved of validation.

Who have you put down or become irritated or angry with lately? 

If you find yourself doing this, think of the Validation movie, or go watch it again.

The movie is 16 minutes long, and well worth watching. 

See how many people you can validate this Christmas and during the holiday period.

The man who told me about this movie is Richard Grant, author of the book ‘Give It No Thought’.  Check it out – a most interesting read.

The photography company I used on the Gold Coast was Aleece Young – Brie Stevenson and Jessica McDonald

Do you have a Validation story?  I would love to hear of it. 

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More about Validation next time.

Live with Energy
Joan
Visit:  http://www.confidenceiskey.com/ to find out about my latest book, ‘Confidence Is Key’  or http://www.theenergybook.com

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Are You Energized Before Christmas?

What is Your Energy Leading Up To Christmas? 

Santa sleeping

Resting up Before Christmas

Is it Neutral, Partying, Harrassed, Depressed, Remembering?

This time of year can mean many different things.

For children it is usually an uncomplicated time. They just know they are excited; anticipating the happiness that will come on Christmas morning when they receive gifts and have delicious sweets and other foods to eat. One of my sons would begin to get the Christmas feeling when he saw the stone fruit in the shops. Living in the ‘bush’ we couldn’t visit Santa,  or have Christmas Carols playing everywhere we went.

What are your feelings around Christmas?

Because my grown up children and grandchildren now live far away from me, I don’t always get to spend Christmas with them, so it can be a sad time if I allow it to be. However, I have learned to handle these feelings and create a happy energized Christmas for myself. This year it is easy, as I am spending it with my youngest son and my three gorgeous grandsons in Darwin, so I too am excited.

Neutral Energy

At the same time I am coasting along in Neutral. This position can feel a bit like depression – boredom, as normal activities start to wind down leading up to that much advertised and hyped up ‘once-a-year’ day. All the focus seems to be upon Christmas Day, so normal pursuits are winding down.

At the same time, parties are winding up.

Party Energy

Santa Party

Santa Party

So your energy may be Party Mode energy. This can be great, but then there may also be the anti-climax – after the party is over and you’re back home, perhaps even with a headache as a result.

Harrassed Energy

You may be feeling the pinch financially, wondering how you are going to buy all those presents and the food and drinks you need to ‘celebrate properly’, and prove to others that you really love them. You may be running out of time.

Remembering Energy

Remembering past Christmases can be good or bad. You may go back in your mind to happy Christmases, and this can be energizing and give you a glow inside, or it may make you feel sad that this Christmas perhaps won’t measure up. You may have lost someone close to you that made your Christmases of the past happy ones.

There is sometimes so much to think about around Christmas that we may feel like bypassing it altogether. I saw a movie once about a family that decided not to celebrate Christmas, but of course in the end they joined in the fun.

Fun Energy

The energy of fun and enjoyment is perhaps the best way to approach Christmas, but the most important thing is to have no expectations. If we just go with the flow and accept what is,  then we won’t be disappointed., and every small pleasure will help to ‘make our day’.

Live in the Now

Joan Small and Geesje Brown

Celebrate!

Enjoy the moment, celebrate, and be grateful for the small joys as they come up. Don’t judge the gifts, just be grateful that someone took the time to think of you and give you something.

A couple of years in a row I worked with Tony Robbins’ team to deliver hampers to needy people, and I reveled in the happiness they showed in their faces when they received the hampers packed with food and luxuries. One lady said, ‘Do you mean I have a friend who cares enough about me to give me such a gift?’ She had been unwell, and had locked herself away, but now her face was beaming. This was a gift to me, as well as to her. I felt wonderful having brightened her day.

We hear so much about the Spirit of Giving, but there is also the Spirit of Receiving.

The Spirit of Receiving

When we receive what we have been given with happiness in our heart and reflect it in our faces with big smiles and genuine pleasure, the giver gets the glow also.

I wrote this little poem some years ago, and it is my gift to you this Christmas.

Giving and Receiving

They say it’s more blessed to give than receive.
But that’s how they see it, how they perceive.
For giving is one thing that’s easy to do.
It makes me feel good when I’m giving to you.

But better than this is receiving a gift.
By thanking the giver, I give you a lift.
When gratitude shows
For the thing you have done,
You’re rewarded because you’re
The most special one.

 By giving I show that I selflessly live.
When receiving I bless you,
Not just when I give.

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Joan
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Celebrating is Energizing – Celebrate Every Day

Celebration Party – An Energizing Experience

Part of the Group, enthralled by the entertainment

Part of the Group, enthralled by the entertainment

I could not have hoped for a more uplifting and energizing experience than my Celebration Party on Sunday, and judging by the comments I received from the more than 50 guests, verbally and in my Visitor Book, a lot of people felt the same way.

Some of the comments were:

What a beautiful gathering of lovely people and a fantastic celebration of life… A wonderful afternoon of satsana with so many embodiments of love – thank you all … Rich and delightful gathering of artists at Christmas … Joan, what an awesome afternoon of celebration and talent. You have an amazing group of friends. … Such a blessing to have you as a friend and to be a part of today in sharing ‘Celebrations’ together. …Honoured to be invited to your wonderful Celebration Day Gathering … Thanks so much for welcoming me into your life, your friendship and home – uplifting and soul nurturing … Beautiful lady, beautiful home.

Can I take all the credit for the energy in the room? 

Of course not. Sure I facilitated it, sent out the invitations, provided the venue, organised the seating, snacks and fruit punch etc, but the people who came and contributed were the success factor.

In my book, ‘Negativity No More’ and also in ‘Confidence is Key’ I talk about the importance of choosing your friends. Sunday’s party showed that I have done a stella job of choosing beautiful people to surround myself with.

Despite the fact that the guests came from many different areas of my life and ranged in age from the 30s to the 80s and 90s, they mixed and mingled, made new connections, and no-one was allowed to be on their own. We formed a wonderful ‘fan club’ for each other.

The Entertainment was Amazing

Deborah Leigh-Russell

Deborah Leigh-Russell

The party turned into a ‘Soiree’ – an afternoon of friends, music, poetry and performances as guests volunteered to share their talents. 

The featured singer, Deborah Leigh-Russell, was as always amazing, with her angelic voice filling the room and engulfing everyone with its magic as she sang ‘You’ll Never Walk Alone’, ‘Climb Every Mountain’, ‘Unforgettable’ and more. Deborah has produced her new (re-mastered) CD – SOUL – Symphony Of Universal Love.

Audrey Todd is also a singer – of folk songs – and she livened up the group with a couple of favourites, encouraging us to join in.

Audrey Todd

Audrey Todd

Then there were the poets from Poetry in Paradise and some readings. The variety was amazing, and the audience  was loudly appreciative.

Sharing the Celebrations

Everybody shared what they had to celebrate – from just being alive to new books, new relationships, new challenges and new beginnings of several kinds.

To top it all off, I had helpers – people who quietly dispensed with rubbish, washed dishes and helped clean up.

Narelle Stratford, Joan Small and Dean Callaway

Narelle, Me and Dean

There were a few things I could have done better, but I will not dwell on these, because the over-all purpose of the afternoon was to celebrate life with my friends, and this was accomplished in an energizing way. What more could I ask for?

I can only say thankyou again to all those who made the choice to spend the afternoon with me and my friends. I’m sure our energy will continue to flow out into the world.

Leonie, Rob and Josie

Leonie, Rob and Josie

My suggestion to you is to approach each day with the question in mind , ‘What can I celebrate today?’ and then make sure you do celebrate in a small or large way. By sharing your celebration with others you will spread this wonderful celebration energy, and also help to change the way others see each moment.

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Live with Energy
Joan
Visit:  http://www.confidenceiskey.com/ to find out about my latest book, ‘Confidence Is Key’  or http://www.theenergybook.com

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Living to 110 and Being Energized with ‘Joy of Life’

 Jane Gray Shows How To Stay Young With Energy While Growing Older

 I read in the newspaper about an amazing woman from Sydney who is turning 110 years young and is thought to be the oldest independently living person in Australia.

Jane seems to have the recipe for a long and fulfilling life. Some of the things I discovered from reading about her were:

  • She had a  happy marriage of 60 years, having migrated to Australia from Scotland with her husband in 1927.
  • She is appreciated and loved by her children, grandchildren and great grandchildren who shared in her birthday celebration. Some came from as far away as Scotland.
  • She contributes to others by knitting teddy bears for Legacy and hospital patients

“I don’t drink booze and I don’t smoke,” she said. “I remember being young inScotland, going to balls and dances and meeting my husband. My favourite memory was when my babies came to me.”

Sense of Humour

Jane also has a good sense of humour –  in one article she was quoted as having said she’d ‘do the highland fling if it wasn’t so cold and her legs could keep up’. Imagine still wanting to do the Highland Fling at 110 years old.

 Jane’s photo reflects her years, and I’m sure she had her fair share of challenges and struggle, but also reflects her indomitable spirit and joy of life. She is to be congratulated on creating a long and happy life. She has seen six monarchs on the British throne  and has received more than one official letter from the Queen.

How sad it is that living beyond 100 is the exception rather than the norm, and that in later years many don’t have the quality of life they deserve.

Independent Living

You may have noticed in the text above the words ‘independently living’. This means Jane doesn’t live in an institution, hospital or nursing home. She still lives with her family. I believe this is one of the keys to her longevity.

Joyce Skinner Poetry Book - 'Oh Gawd, I'm 80'

Joyce Skinner Poetry Book - 'Oh Gawd, I'm 80'

Joyce Skinner, 80+ years young

I know another lady who seems to have found the key to feeling young at an advanced age. This is Joyce Skinner, and I had the privilege of helping her publish  her poetry book called ‘Oh Gawd, I’m Eighty’. Her poems are outrageous and funny, and within a few weeks of getting it printed she sold more than 100 books.  Others want to read her poetry because it makes them laugh, and so keeps them feeling younger too. Laughter is one of the keys to youth. 

Joyce has been married to Mac for more than 60 years. She doesn’t try to look younger than her years, as you can see by the cover of her book, she is just herself, and her ‘energized age’ is young.  She might easily reach 100 or more the way she is going.

A Determination to Feel Young While Growing Older

I believe it is possible to feel young while growing older and most of it comes from a determination to do so.  The body has the ability to heal itself, and no matter how much doctors and scientists try to prove to us that certain illnesses and ailments are incurable there is evidence every day of incurable conditions being cured. And I mean really cured, not just the ‘remission’ that we are told is the acceptable term.

Life Expectancy Vs Quality of Life

The power of the mind over the body is incredible. Life expectancy  in Australia is on the increase, and reached 81.5 years in 2009. 
The Sad News

However, at the same time, in 2001 the figures showed that drug induced deaths, both from suicide and accidental overdose, increased after the age of 75. I hate to put a negative slant on my post, because I like to be uplifting and energizing, but I have to say that the number of drugs prescribed for people over the age of 50 or 60 is on the increase. The slightest blip in bone density, cholesterol levels, blood pressure etc has doctors running to their drug list, and as soon as the person is on one medication it quickly leads to another and another and another to counteract side effects.

 ’Because of the pharmacological interactions between different drugs, using a mixture of drugs is more likely to result in adverse health effects, including death, than use of a single type of drug. For example, alcohol increases the effects of some drugs, and was present in 18% of accidental drug-induced deaths as a contributing factor, rather than as the drug that ultimately caused the death.’  ABS Report 

Don Tolman (the whole food man – dontolman.com) says there are no such things as ‘side effects’, only ‘effects’.  In other words all medications have their effect on the body.   He advocates eating whole raw foods as much as possible to keep the body in balance, healthy and fit (young). His ‘Farmacist’s Desk Reference’ gives a comprehensive explanation of the magical effects produced by the nutrients naturally found in whole raw foods.

The Good News

So, if you want to live to 110 and still have that all important quality of life like Jane Gray, look to natural ways to nourish and look after your body, as you do your mind, and most of all keep your sense of humou, and remember, life is really not that serious.

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Live with Energy
Joan
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Be Energized by Knowing Who You Really Are – Not Just Your Body – or your less than taut tummy!

Are You Your Body?  – Energy Comes From Your Inner Essence

This morning on TV I heard figures about body image in women that said 16% of women are dis-satisfied with their bodies.

I was surprised. I thought the figure would be much higher. I just assumed that all women are dis-satisfied with their height, shape, weight or individual body parts.

Even our beautiful Elle McPherson, ‘The Body’ supermodel is reported as saying  that at 47 she feels her body is not as beautiful as those who have had ‘work’ done, .i.e. plastic surgery. I disagree, she is still looking fantastic and so natural. Our teens would do well to use Elle as their natural pin-up, whilst at the same time realising that we are not all born with the potential to have those curves in the ‘right places’.

Although I am tall with good legs, I have to own up that I am not completely happy with my body.  The tummy is a constant challenged.  However, at over 50 (plus a few months – or years!) I feel I still shape up pretty well.

My dissatisfaction comes from the fact that I am a little slack in keeping fit, and I do indulge in those yummy apple turnovers with cream (my favourite) now and then.

I have given up most sugar though, but that is a story for another post.
Back to body image.

Why are we so obsessed with how our bodies look?

My belief is that our bodies are simply our ID card. It’s the physical and visual image that allows others to recognise us.

I was at a Toastmasters conference one time and a lady who looked slightly familiar approached me and called me by name. Puzzled, I asked where we had met and discovered we had spent some months attending the same small book group. However, she had lost 25 kgs in weight, and at only about 5 ft 4 inches this made a huge difference to her appearance.  As soon as she told me her name I was quickly able to pick up her essence and slip into friendship mode.

Inner Essence – ‘Beingness’

I know who I am

I remember a story about a man who had gone blind before the birth of his fourth child. He had no visual image of her, but whenever she walked into the room he recognised her immediately by her ‘essence’ – her inner being.

I loved the Avatar movie, especially when Neytiri  said to Jake ‘I see you’.  She didn’t mean that she saw him visually, she meant she saw into his soul – the essence of who he truly was.

What a pity that we don’t easily see each person’s inner being.

What a pity we judge others and ourselves by body shape.

I believe the body is our ‘temple’ and we should treat it well, look after it all our lives by putting the best natural food into it, drinking pure clean water, getting into motion to keep our limbs supple and our systems flowing well. We should also focus on deep breathing (see my previous post).

My school photo when I was eleven shows only two children out of more than 40  who could be  considered a bit on the chubby side. There was not enough money to splurge on soft drinks and sweets, but there was always good wholesome food to eat. When I raised my children in a remote town, fruit and vegetables, known as ‘perishables’ only arrived once a week and were expensive, so they were considered special treats. However, we made sure we stocked up enough so that children had fresh food during every day to keep them healthy.

Nowadays, the supermarket aisles are full of these sweet temptations and it is hard for parents to encourage their children to eat the more expensive fresh food items. If they did, then eating disorders and the resultant body imbalances would not be such an issue.

Busy parents mean more junk food, and also less quality time to re-enforce self image, enabling children to realise they can be loved for themselves, and not how they look.

Children Blessed with the Love  - a Healthy Model and Recognition of their Inner Essence

The children whose parents teach them how to live healthy lives are blessed indeed, as are the children who are ‘seen’ by their parents, friends, teachers and others as the person they really are inside.

If we truly know and love the person we are, the superficial body image becomes less important, and we can let our light shine with confidence.

Energizing fun in the snow

Energizing Fun in the Snow

Being Yourself is Energizing

Yes, it’s true. Being yourself, knowing who you really are as distinct from your body, living a healthy lifestyle is a way to happiness and energy every day.

Even I am getting out and walking daily – and I feel so much better for it. (I can even see my tummy shrinking a little.)

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Live with Energy
Joan
Visit:  http://www.confidenceiskey.com/ to find out about my latest book, ‘Confidence Is Key’  or http://www.theenergybook.com

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Do you know who you really are? – Being Confident and Energized Comes With Being Yourself

Do you know who you are?

In order to be energized every day and to have confidence and self assurance you need to have some inkling about who you are.  A lady I know recently revealed that she had left her seemingly happy marriage because she didn’t know who she was.

This is an uncomfortable position to be in because it means you are buffeted by the stream – always pushed this way or that because of others’ opinions.

To give you a small example of being influenced by others …

Joan Small Photos Collage

My various hairstyles

I have always coloured my hair, and worn it in different styles, short, mid length or long, and when it is long I sometimes tie it up.  My friends and others often comment on which style they prefer. Some will say, ‘I like your hair short’, others like it darker or fairer, and some prefer it long or tied back.

At times I have styled me hair to suit the person whose favourable opinion I most want at that time. However, I have now come to realise that it is impossible and downright silly to change my hair style because of what others say. I should be choosing for me – what I think suits me best, and varying the way I wear my hair depending on who I am and how I feel.

Can you see how this translates into larger things?

If we allow ourselves to put our own instincts and preferences after everybody elses; if we are always trying to please others and be how they want us to be we just lose ourselves. We end up not knowing who we really are.

Perhaps you have experienced times in your life when you felt you were not really yourself. This is what happened to me.

A Young Wife and Mother

Joan Small with Raymond and Robin

Young Wife and Mother

When children come along they bring out the best, and sometimes the worst, in us. I had grown up around a dominant father who was bossy, irritable and sometimes angry. My mother was the opposite, gentle, easily upset and sympathetic. So when I had my own children stressful situations caused me sometimes to become  irritable and angry, and at other times to dissolve into tears.

I am happy to say that most of the time I was even tempered, patient and loving. However, when these moods came upon me I felt that I was ‘not myself’. I had turned into someone else, and I didn’t understand what was happening and making me behave this way.

Awareness Allows Change

In one of my sortees into personal development I discovered that these mood shifts are because of taking on the personality of another person. In my case my mother or father. Once I became aware of this I could ‘catch myself out’ when I was going into these valances that were not the real me. As I took measures to handle stress in different and more positive ways, I became more of myself and a much easier person to live with.

Can you relate to this?

I have done a lot of personal development work over the years, and it has helped me to recognise that the real me is the best person to be. I know and like myself now, and this has helped me to gain the confidence I have in all situations.

It is also wonderfully energizing to know I am my own person and can choose for myself.

I’d love to hear about your experiences with becoming more of the real you.

Joan Small Being Yourself

Being Yourself - Click on the Link at the right ->

 Beautiful Thoughts to Help You Become More of Yourself – Click Here 

This powerpoint presentation is well worth a few moments of your time.  The suggestions are energizing and uplifting, the images absolutely beautiful and the music easy to listen to.  Pass it on to others when you have watched and listened to it, and help to make their day or their life.

 PS: If you want to ‘vote’ on which look you prefer in the above photos I will be interested in your opinion. (Not that I will allow it to over-ride my own preferences, of course.)

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Live with Energy
Joan
Visit:  http://www.confidenceiskey.com/ to find out about my latest book, ‘Confidence Is Key’  or http://www.theenergybook.com

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Energize Your Life with Something To Do and Something To Look Forward To

Create Your Own Energized Life

Something to do, something to look forward to and someone to love. This has been so oft quoted it may seem like a well-worn cliche, but variety truly is the spice of life, and having something interesting and different to do and look forward to every day is what gets us out of bed.

Who wants to do the same things every day? I know I don’t, so I deliberately create what I call ‘islands of enjoyment’.

cappuchino coffeeThese islands may just be small things. For instance, if I have been working at my computer all day I will walk over to the shopping centre where there is an excellent coffee shop, ‘shout’ myself a coffee and sit outside, alfresco on the pavement, watching the world go by and perhaps flicking through the newspaper or reading a book.

The combination of fresh air, exercise, tasty coffee and people-watching has an uplifting effect.

What is your ‘special small thing’ that will lift you out of feeling bored or ordinary?

A Hawaiian Workshop – Aloha

Hills of Kona Hawaii

Hills of Kona Hawaii

Dean Calloway’s mini workshop yesterday on the 7 Principles of The Hawaiian Way was about the 5th principle – Aloha. 

We started with a social chat in the adjacent coffee lounge (is there a coffee theme going on here?) next to the Crystal shop. What wonderful energy in this amazing shop filled with the most spectacular gemstones.

The session was very special, talking about how Aloha is not only a Hawaiian greeting but also a breathing technique and a way of sharing love and gratitude.

House Party

After that, I went on to a house party to celebrate 120 years – two 60th birthdays – of a husband and wife. This party was full of surprises. Starting outside, with a marquee in the yard, we moved upstairs for the meal, and this was followed by performances from singers, poets, guitarists,  and even tin whistles.  Interspersed was the chance to sing along with the music. I just loved it.

No Expectations

I had no special expectations of the day, but I was ‘looking forward’ to whatever it would bring.

Special occasions such as these are becoming more frequent in my life as I am thinking ahead, and planning islands of enjoyment. During the week I was at my writers’ group, and today is my wonderful poetry club – ‘Poetry in Paradise’. It seems that by ‘putting it out there’ the Universe is responding with even more magical happenings.

Try it. When you wake in the morning ask the question ‘What grand and glorious adventure will I be having today’. 

You will have heard the cliche ‘Life is what you make it’, but cliche or not it is true. Create your own islands of enjoyment now, and never be bored again.

Click on the title of this post and it will take you to another page where you can leave your reply. I would love to hear your thoughts.

Live with Energy
Joan
Visit:  http://www.confidenceiskey.com/ to find out about my latest book, ‘Confidence Is Key’  or http://www.theenergybook.com

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Energize Yourself With ‘The Hawaiian Way’ 11.11.11

Confidence in the Future  –  ’The Hawaiian Way’ – Dean Callaway

Kona Hawaii - The Hawaiian Way - Dean Callaway

Kona Hawaii

Today is the 11th day of the 11th month of the 11th year (2011). It is   ‘Remembrance Day’ in Australia and at 11 am we will be observing one minute’s silence to commemorate those who died in WWI.

Equally as important as not forgetting the past is looking to the future with confidence and anticipating the wonderful things it can bring to us.

Elvis Presley is attributed with the quote:  ”For Happiness we need Someone to love, something to do and something to look forward to”, and what better day than 11.11.11 to create things in our lives to look forward to. This is a tremendously energizing thing to do.

What are you looking forward to? 

I have a few things – Christmas in Darwin with my son, his wife and three gorgeous boys, and in January a visit from another son and his family. This is the ‘someone to love’ part of Elvis’ quote; two amazing things to look forward to – and there is a third.

The Hawaiian Way, and a Hawaiian Tour – A Spiritual Journey

I talked about ‘variety’ in my previous post, and so I have created more variety and something to look forward to  for March 2012. I have booked for Dean Callaway’s 10-day ‘Hawaiian Way’ Spiritual Tour to Kona Hawaii.  The thought and visualisation of this trip is totally energizing. 

Dean is an advocate and teacher of the 7 principles of ‘The Hawaiian Way’ and is conducting sessions each week here on the Gold Coast to lead people through each of these principles.  They are IKE – Awareness; KALA – No Limits; MAKIA -Focus; MANAWA – Now is the moment of power; ALOHA – To love is to be happy; MANA- All power comes from within; and PONO – Effectiveness is the measure of truth.

These principles are a powerful way to live life, and Dean is the epitome of how they can be put into action.

King Kamehameha

King Kamehameha

I am so excited about going to Hawaii. We will not only be experiencing the many layers of Hawaiian life and spirituality by meeting the elders and having ‘talk story’, taking a trip to the City of Refuge, visiting a volcano and hieroglyph carvings, but also doing things just for fun, like snorkelling, learning to dance the hula, play the ukelele and make a flower lei.

Much of the enjoyment in something like this is the anticipation of the event, and you can bet I will be tapping into this amazing Hawaiian energy in the months leading up to the trip.

But, a word of warning about anticipation and ‘looking forward to’. It is also important not to have fixed ‘expectations’.  There is a certain way of anticipating an event, and that is with an open mind – allowing the Universe to provide ‘this, or something better’.  But Keeping in mind MANA – ‘all power comes from within’, and this helps us to generate the most amazing outcome.

The 7  Hawaiian Way Principles in Action

Using the 7 principles of The Hawaiian Way around the imagination of this forthcoming trip:

I can be in IKE – be aware that I can choose what I think,

and with KALA – put no limits on what will happen. Limits and limitations are not real.

With MAKIA – ‘energy flows where attention goes’, so I will maintain a positive focus on the Universe providing the best possible outcome for me.

MANAWA – now is the moment of power tells me that I must ensure that what I do today  will enable me to clear the way, financially and in other areas, to easily have this holiday.

ALOHA – if I am happy and count my blessings it will contribute to the good energy around the trip.

MANA - gives me confidence that I have the power within me to create the best experience,

and finally PONO tells me to do the greatest good I can now, and this will contribute to my abundance and ability to generate what I need to make this trip the best experience for me. 

View the video here

Dean’s series of 2-hour workshops on The Hawaiian Way are being conducted each Saturday between 3 and 5 pm at Mermaid Waters (Gold Coast, Australia). If you want more information about this, or the tour, email me at joan@joansmall.com 

What are you looking forward to?  Do you find it energizing? I would love to hear from you, so …

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Live with Energy
Joan
Visit:  http://www.confidenceiskey.com/ to find out about my latest book, ‘Confidence Is Key’  or http://www.theenergybook.com

 

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